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the Sunday Brunch 10/3/21

9/29/2021

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Since Hobbit's Day was not to long ago, we thought it would be fun if this weeks Sunday Brunch had a Tolkien theme. We have a Lembas Bread recipe, a Hobbit inspired book brunch and a Lord of the Rings themed playlist. We hope you have as much as fun as we did putting all this together. 
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“It’s a dangerous business, Frodo, going out of your door,” he used to say. “You step into the Road, and if you don’t keep your feet, there is no knowing where you might be swept off to.” Frodo, quoting Bilbo in The Fellowship of the Ring, Book One, Chapter Three

Elven Lembas Bread

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Lembas, also called Way bread, was a special type of bread or cake made by the Elves in Tolkien’s books. It was pocket-sized and exceedingly nutritious. It stayed fresh for months when wrapped in leaves, and was a type of superfood carried along on long journeys. Think super-powered energy bars.

According to the books (I’m referring, of course, to the Lord of the Rings trilogy) Lembas was brownish on the outside, and cream-colored on the inside. The secret of Lembas was very closely guarded, and it was not given to anybody who was not an Elf except on very special occasions. Like other products of the Elves, it was offensive to evil creatures; the loathsome creature Gollum refused to eat it.


Just a few ingredients and a few minutes of your time to mix them together, and you'll please any Lord of the Ring fans with these tasty breads!
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Ingredients
1 cup butter
½ cup brown sugar or ¼ cup honey
2 cups unbleached flour

Instructions
Preheat oven to 325 degrees.
Cream together the butter and sugar or honey. Add the flour and mix until thoroughly incorporated. Put out on suitable surface and knead until quite smooth, about 5 minutes, adding a bit of flour if necessary to keep dough from sticking.
Roll out to about ¼ inch thickness and cut into 3" to 4" squares, scoring with a knife halfway through each square with a butter knife. Place on buttered cookie sheet and bake for about 20 to 25 minutes, or until lightly golden brown.

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Fiction:
The Lord of the Rings: Fellowship of the Ring
 - J.R.R. Tolkien
Beren & Luthien
 - J.R.R. Tolkien
The Naming 
 - Alison Croggon
The Seventh Son
 - Orson Scott Card

Non-Fiction:
The Inklings:
 - Humphrey Carpenter
The Atlas of Middle-earth
 - Karen Wynn Fonstad
The Uses of Enchantment
 - Bruno Bettelheim
Books to read with your kids:
​The Princess and the Goblin
 - George MacDonald
The Hobbit
 - J.R,R, Tolkien
The Magician's Nephew
 - C.S. Lewis
A Wrinkle in Time
 - Madeleine L'Engle
The Blue Fairy Book
 - Andrew Lang

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Living Abundantly By Showing And Sharing Gratitude 
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Would you like to live abundantly full of happiness and contentment? How about a life with excellent physical and mental health? Greatly increase your chances of that happening by showing and sharing gratitude. That’s right, something as simple as practicing thankfulness and expressing how grateful you are for the people and things you have in your life has a powerful impact. Here are some simple things you can do starting today to show your gratitude. 

• Tell the people you love how grateful you are for them. We often take the ones closest to us for granted. Make a point to do it regularly and be specific to make it meaningful. 
• Think about the people who challenge you. Express your gratitude for how they help you grow and make you stronger. 
• Take a few minutes each week to write a letter or email to a person who has made a difference to you at one point or another. This could be a teacher, a mentor, an old friend … anyone you can think of. 
• Give the gift of your time to someone to show without words how grateful you are to have them in your life. This is particularly important for the elderly people in your life. Your time with them is limited. Make the most of it. 
• Start using a gratitude journal and make the time to write down three things you are grateful for every single day. It will brighten even your worst days and put things into perspective. 
• Forgive yourself when you don’t reach all your goals, or things don’t go your way. Be grateful for what you have and what you are learning from each experience. 
• Compliment the people around you. Make them feel good about themselves. It’s a powerful way to show gratitude in an indirect way. Small, meaningful gifts and acts of service do the same. 
• Pay it forward. Do something nice for someone you work with or a total stranger. Random acts of kindness are a wonderful way to spread gratitude and bring more positivity into the world. 
• Give a hug and a kind word to someone who’s struggling. Show them through physical affection that you’re there for them and grateful to have them in your life. 
• Show your body and mind gratitude for what they do for you day in and day out by taking care of yourself and investing in regular self-care. 

I’ll leave you with a quote. Take a moment to read it, re-read it, and really let it sink in. 

“Feeling gratitude and not expressing it is like wrapping a present and not giving it.” 
William Arthur Ward

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The Sunday Brunch 9/26

9/24/2021

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In this week's edition of the Sunday Brunch we have a delicious Cat Head Biscuit and Gravy recipe plus a devotion from Pastor Mic and a new Brunch Playlist plus more books for the Reading Brunch.  Here we go.

Why It’s Important to Help Others

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Think back to the last time you helped someone, whether it was holding the door open for a classmate or raking your elderly neighbor’s leaves. While you were doing it and afterward, how did you feel? We’re going to make a safe bet you felt happy and more positive about life. That’s because the fastest way to feel joy is serving others.

An old Chinese Proverb tells it perfectly, “If you want happiness for an hour, take a nap. If you want happiness for a day, go fishing. If you want happiness for a year, inherit a fortune. If you want happiness for a lifetime, help somebody.”

But serving doesn’t just make your heart feel good. Studies have shown that there are mental and physical health benefits to serving, like reducing depression, lowering blood pressure and lengthening your lifespan.

Putting other people’s needs before yours also strengthens your relationships. It connects you with the one you’re serving, and if that someone is someone you know, it creates a stronger bond with them.

It also enriches other people’s lives. Taking time out of your busy day to even bring a friend a bowl of soup when they’re sick makes them feel better and can uplift them during their rough time.

And perhaps the best benefit of service is the chance of that person paying it forward. If you help someone, they’re more likely to do something nice for someone else that day. Your one act of kindness could have a major domino effect.

How You Can Start Today

So how do you start? And who do you start with?

First, you have to make helping others a priority. Most people think, “I don’t have time to serve someone today.” And it’s true; we’re all busy. Between school, work, family obligations, ETC.  you likely hardly have enough “me” time. But, you do have the time. You just have to prioritize what’s really important.

The second thing you need to do is simply love. And Galatians 5:13 tells us “by love serve one another.” You can serve someone by simply expressing your love to them. A hug, a compliment or lending a listening ear are all small ways you can show love to someone; ways that mean more to that person than you may ever know.

Other ways you can start serving today include:
  • Smiling at a stranger.
  • Volunteering at a local charity, soup kitchen, etc.
  • Donating old clothes, books and other items you no longer need at a local charity.
  • Giving a few dollars, food or a bottle of water that’s in your car to the homeless person standing on the street corner.
  • Doing something nice for your siblings or parents, i.e. doing one of their chores for them, watching the movie they want to watch, etc.
  • Leaving a short note on a coworker’s desk telling them how much you appreciate their hard work.
Lending a helping hand is one of the easiest things you can do to make a difference in this world. You can improve the world, one day, one person and one act of kindness at a time.



Cathead Biscuits and sausage gravy

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 4 cups self-rising flour (we use White Lily)
3 tbs vegetable shortening
1 pinch salt
1 1/2 -1 3/4 cups buttermilk
1/4 cup melted butter for brushing

Preheat oven to 475. Grease an 8 inch pie dish. 

Add flour to a large bowl. Make a well in the center. Dump in shortening and a splash of milk. Use the edge of a spatula to cut and blend into the flour, adding a little more milk at a time until it comes together as a sticky, slightly wet dough. *You may not use all the milk.*

Portion into 8 equal-ish pieces into a large dish; 7 in a circle, last one in the center. Pat down and smooth tops. Bake for 15-20 minutes, watching to make sure the tops don’t burn. Brush with melted butter, return to oven for a minute or two, then serve! 

Gravy 

1 pound breakfast sausage (or bacon!) 
4 tbs grease (from sausage, bacon or butter)
4 tbs flour
2 cups whole milk, preferably room temp, plus more to thin as needed
Salt and pepper, to taste

Brown sausage over medium high heat, crumbly as it cooks. Remove sausage to a plate, turn heat down to medium low. 

You need about 4 TBS of grease in the skillet. Add butter or bacon grease if there isn’t enough from the sausage. Using a whisk to stir constantly, sprinkle in all the flour. Cook while whisking for about 2 minutes to cook out the flour taste. 

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Turn off the heat and slowly stream in the milk while whisking vigorously to help prevent any lumps. (You can leave the heat on if you want, but I feel like you get a smoother gravy this way because the milk doesn’t seize up from the intense heat). 

Season with salt and pepper, and turn the heat back on to medium low. Keep whisking over the next 5-10 minutes as the gravy starts to thicken up. Taste for seasoning and adjust, adding more milk if needed to reach your desired consistency. Remember to adjust seasoning each time you add more milk! Then add the sausage back in and you are ready to serve.

The Reading Brunch

Here is this week's recommended reading list. If you have a book you would like to recommend, post it in our facebook group.

Non-Fiction 

A Walk In The Woods
- Bill Bryson
Between The World And Me
- Ta-Nehisi Coates
Caste
- Isabel Wilkerson
A Brief History of Time
- Stephen Hawking

Fiction (Mystery Edition)

A Morbid Taste For Bones
- Ellis Peters
Anything by Agatha Christie
Father Brown The Essential Tales
- GK Chesterton
The Nine Tailors
- Dorothy L Sayers
The Chinese Shawl
- Patricia Wentworth

Books to read with the kiddos


The Hobbit - JRR Tolkien
Bad Kitty School Daze - Nick Bruel

Corduroy  - Don Freeman
​Charlotte's Web - EB White

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practicing Gratitude Daily

9/22/2021

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Practicing gratitude regularly has an impact on your life, your health, and your mental and emotional wellbeing. But it doesn’t end there. It will also have a big impact on those around you and the world at large when you start to turn your gratitude outwards and share it far and wide. 

Roman writer and philosopher Cicero called gratitude the parent of all virtue. In other words, if we practice gratitude we’re also getting better at things like kindness, generosity, orderliness, courage, honesty and respect to name a few. What does this mean in practical terms? If we practice gratitude, we can’t help but become a better person. 

Now let’s take this a step further. What if, instead of simply practicing gratitude for yourself, you take it out to the world at large? What could happen? What force of good could you create? There is no telling how many lives you could influence for the better. Let’s take a look at how you, I, and everyone else reading this can start to turn their gratitude outward and share it with those around them. 

Random Acts of Kindness 

Do something kind for a stranger. This can be something as simple as giving an open and honest smile to a stranger on the street or a few kind words and a compliment for the cashier ringing up your groceries. Or it could be taking a meal to an elderly neighbor or buying a drink for the person behind you in the coffee shop drive-thru line. Make it a goal to do something kind for someone each day and do it intentionally. 

Respect And Thank Those Who Serve You 

There are so many people in our communities that serve us from first responders to the waitress at your favorite restaurant. Make it a point to be respectful and thank them with words, with actions, and in the case of that waitress with a generous tip. Show them how grateful you are for everything they do to make your life easier.  

Volunteer In Your Community 

What better way to show your gratitude than to give your time and your skills. There are many opportunities for anyone to volunteer in various projects and for a variety of different causes. See what’s available around you and make an effort to put in some time to volunteer each month. Not only is it a wonderful way to give back and spread gratitude, but you’ll be amazed at how much you get out of it. 

Develop Deeper Relationships 
Last but not least, I would like to encourage you to work on developing deeper relationships. You will have a stronger sense of gratitude and lead by example when you make the time to listen and actively work on coming closer to the people you love. 

Now that you have some ideas, the ball is in your court. What will you do today, this week, or this month to spread gratitude in your own circle of influence? Go out there and make an impact. Make the world a better and more grateful place. 

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The Sunday Brunch 9/18

9/18/2021

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Welcome to the latest edition of The Sunday Brunch. Each Sunday we want to bring a small devotion and discussion, some cool things to do and a fun recipe for your family to enjoy some time together. This week we have some awesome Croissant Breakfast/Brunch Sandwiches, an updated playlist and new books to check out as well as a short devotional for the family. It's time for The Sunday Brunch.

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This week we thought we would look at a few more poems from Mary Oliver. Many of you commented on how her words really spoke to some of the things you had been feeling this past year. We picked a few more poems that dealt with loss and healing since so many of us have been dealing with those very things.
When you are in the middle of a dark grief of the soul, sometimes the most comforting thing you can feel is someone’s understanding. Someone who helps you feel seen and reminds you that you’re not alone in this season. Make sure you take a few moments today to talk about the feelings and emotions that rise to the surface when you read these poems.

PRAYING 
It doesn’t have to be
the blue iris, it could be
weeds in a vacant lot, or a few
small stones; just
pay attention, then patch

a few words together and don’t try
to make them elaborate, this isn’t
a contest but the doorway

into thanks, and a silence in which
another voice may speak.

This poem spoke so profoundly our hearts. Grief can make you feel so alone and hopeless—but for many, prayer can connect you back to hope. Prayer allows you to seek comfort and solace outside of yourself. It doesn’t have to be perfect to matter, it just needs to be sincere and honest. That vulnerability opens up a door for healing and processing. 


IN BLACKWATER WOODS (EXCERPT)

To live in this world 
you must be able
to do three things:
to love what is mortal;
to hold it
against your bones knowing
your own life depends on it;
and, when the time comes to let it go,
to let it go.

This poem is immensely profound as it reflects on the human condition and the importance of loving others—and life itself—to the very depths of our soul. Life is fleeting, and every moment matters. Oliver’s words acknowledge that painful reality while also reminding readers that love, despite the pain, is worth it. She reminds us to live right here - in the NOW.

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What's For Brunch?

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Croissant Breakfast Sandwiches

Croissants (we used mini size)
Sliced Havarti cheese
Crispy bacon
1 tbs spicy brown mustard + 2 tbs mayo, mixed
Butter

Preheat the oven to 350°. Cut each croissant open, slather with the mustard+mayo, add cheese and bacon. 

Spread butter on the tops and bake 5-10 minutes until the cheese is melted and croissants are toasted.

​They were a huge hit with our kiddos!!!

FAMILY TIME
  • Read the poems out loud
  • Be mindful in the moment: how does this poem make you feel? What does it stir up? Let each family member share their thoughts and emotions.
  • What is prayer to you? 
  • Was there ever a time when you felt like your prayer was answered? How about when it wasn't? How did that make you feel?
  • ​In Blackwater Woods, Oliver speaks of letting go of the things you love sometimes. Have you ever had to let something or someone you love go?
  • ​What can you do to help you and your family live in the NOW. To really live in the moment.

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Reflections is an amazing way to improve self-awareness and work through past traumas and emotions, as well as a way to get to know yourself. The goal of this journal is for us to learn to forgive ourselves and move into a much happier, more accepting mindset. It is ultimately a deep dive into our own toxic traits and helps us learn about who we REALLY are and grow to reach true self acceptance.

The Reading Brunch

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Here's a great list of books to check out at your local library or maybe snag on Amazon to read on a Sunday afternoon:

Non-Fiction
An Altar In The World
- Barbara Brown Taylor
Jesus and the Lotus
- Russill Paul
A More Christlike Word
- Brad Jersak
Thunder In The Mountains (The WV Mine War 1920-1921)
- Lon Savage
Launching, Landing & Moving Forward
-Nate Allen
A Joseph Campbell Companion
- Diane Osbon

Fiction
Fahrenheit 451
- Ray Bradbury
Foundation
- Isaac Asimov
Storming Heaven
- Denise Giardina

Books To Read With Your Kids
The Princess and the Goblin
- George MacDonald
The Lightning Thief
- Rick Riordan
Redwall (anything in the series)
- Brian Jacques

We're Different, We're The Same
- Sesame Street
Hello, Neighbor! The Kind Caring Words of Mister Rogers
- Matthew Cordell
Funky Chicken Enchiladas
- Nick Fauchold

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What If You’re Stuck In Negativity?

9/15/2021

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But What If You’re Stuck In Negativity?

Practicing gratitude and focusing on positivity is easier said than done. Especially if you are struggling with anxiety and depression. If you ever find yourself spiraling into the deep pit of depression then get help if you need it.  There’s nothing wrong with talking to a counselor or getting therapy. It’s the smart thing to do. 

When things aren’t quite that bad, there’s a lot you can do to get yourself unstuck from all that negativity. Start by acknowledging them and putting them into words. How exactly do you feel? Is it anger or annoyance? Frustration or disappointment? Try to be specific. Dig deep. Yes, it can be painful and some people prefer to avoid thinking about these feelings, but the first step to getting yourself unstuck is determining exactly where you are emotionally. 

Once you’ve identified the feeling, you can start to work on discovering what caused them. Sometimes the answer is obvious. Other times, not so much. In either case, I encourage you to dig deep because often the obvious answer isn’t the real root cause. Yes, you may be mad at our spouse for running up the credit card bill, but if you dig deep, you may discover that there are some underlying core values that don’t align between the two of you. 

Once you find the true reason for your negative feelings, you can start to work to resolve them. What that looks like will vary from case to case. The important takeaway here is that it gives you something specific and meaningful to do. You no longer feel out of control or helpless. It’s something you can work with and that alone will help you think more positively. 

In addition, it allows you to distance yourself a little from the negative feelings. You may still be upset with your spouse, but it also gives you the space to remember everything you love about him or her. It gives you the space to act outside of the negativity and have a good relationship while you work things out. And sometimes, it may give you the mental space you need to realize that it is up to you to decide if you want to continue to dwell in the negativity, or choose a route of forgiveness. You can’t change everything or everyone. Sometimes your path toward positivity is to acknowledge your negative feelings and then let them go. 

Of course all of this is easier said than done. A journal can be a great tool to help you along the way. Try talking to a close friend or confidant when you feel stuck and you can’t see a path towards positivity. An outside perspective can give a lot of clarity. Meditation can be helpful as well. 

Last but not least, surround yourself with positivity.  Get outside and enjoy nature. Spend some time helping others. And don’t forget to remind yourself regularly of everything you have to be grateful for. 

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The Sunday Brunch 9/12

9/11/2021

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Welcome to our first edition of The Sunday Brunch. Each Sunday we want to bring a small devotion and discussion, some cool things to do and a fun recipe for your family to enjoy some time together. This week we have a beautiful poem from Mary Oliver, a fun booklist, Spotify Playlist and a delicious Peach Crisp.
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The past year and a half has been hard. Many of us have lost friends and family and struggle everyday with what to do with our grief. When you are in the middle of a dark grief of the soul, sometimes the most comforting thing you can feel is someone’s understanding. Someone who helps you feel seen and reminds you that you’re not alone in this season of loss. 


Mary Oliver is a poet who understood grief all too well. Her words serve as a comfort to other hurting souls who are in the thick of their pain. If you are in a season of sadness, please know that I am aching alongside you. I hope her words can be a flicker of hope for your heart as well. Here are a few Mary Oliver poems to soothe our souls in any season of suffering. 

​HEAVY
That time

I thought I could not
go any closer to grief
without dying
 
I went closer,
and I did not die.
Surely God
had his hand in this,
 
as well as friends.
Still, I was bent,
and my laughter,
as the poet said,
 
was nowhere to be found.
Then said my friend Daniel
(brave even among lions),
“It is not the weight you carry
 
but how you carry it--
books, bricks, grief--
it’s all in the way
you embrace it, balance it, carry it
 
when you cannot, and would not,
put it down.”
So I went practicing.
Have you noticed?
 
Have you heard
the laughter
that comes, now and again,
out of my startled mouth?
 
How I linger
to admire, admire, admire
the things of this world
that are kind, and maybe
 
also troubled--
roses in the wind,
The sea geese on the steep waves,
a love
to which there is no reply?

Family Time

  • Read the poem out loud
  • Be mindful in the moment: how does this poem make you feel? What does it stir up?
  • How has your family handled grief this past year? Take a few moments today to remember loved ones and friends you've lost. 
  • Yesterday was the 20 year anniversary of the 9/11 tragedy. If your kids are old enough and saw those events play out on TV take some time to talk about what happened and give them room to ask questions. If they are younger and have seen those images recently take some time to discuss what happened.
  • If you know of someone who has lost family recently take a few moments to pray for them and maybe write a card or even call/facetime them to check and see how they are doing.
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PEach Crisp Recipe

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Peach Crisp

6 peaches, chopped or sliced (peeled, optional)
1/2-2/3 c brown sugar (depending on sweetness of peaches)
2 tbs cornstarch

Mix together in a large bowl and set aside an hour prior to baking. Preheat oven to 350°, then dump peaches into a large pie dish and spread evenly. 

3/4 cup flour
1 1/4 cup old fashioned oats
1 stick butter, softened
1 tsp cinnamon
1/4 tsp salt

Mix flour, butter, cinnamon and salt in a bowl, then fold in the oats. Sprinkle on top of peaches and press in gently. Bake for 30-35 minutes and let cool slightly before serving. Topping will crisp as it cools.

Sunday Brunch Playlist

Sunday Brunch Reading List

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Here are some great books for a lazy Sunday afternoon:

Non -Fiction
Everything Is Spiritual - Rob Bell
The God Equation - Michio Kaku
Happiness - Thich Nhat Hanh
Mary Magdalene Revealed - Meggan Watterson

Fiction
The Murder at the Vicarage - Agatha Christie
The Man in the Iron Mask - Alexandre Dumas
The Secret Life Of Bees - Sue Monk Kidd

Books to Read With your Kids
Robinson Crusoe - Daniel Defoe
Prince Caspian - C. S. Lewis
The Velveteen Rabbit - Margery Williams
Where The Wild Things Are - Maurice Sendak


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Fewer Stress Hormones

9/8/2021

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Fewer Stress Hormones 

When you are anxious or scared, the body releases stress hormones like adrenaline, cortisol and the likes. That’s not necessarily a bad thing. It helps you react fast when you’re about to be hit by a car and make you run faster when you need to get away from someone. But it works against you and robs you of your health and wellbeing when it’s a response to something that isn’t a physical danger. Like tax day or worrying about what your co-worker thinks of you. 

Stress hormones can lead to weight gain, depression, anxiety, and they take a toll on your heart. You know you should do what you can to reduce the stress you feel and as it turns out, one of the most powerful strategies here is practicing gratitude and positive thinking. So choose happiness and know that you are doing wonders for your mental and physical health. 

So what’s the bottom line? When you are mindful of all of the things you are grateful for in your life then you can learn to appreciate all the good even in the midst of the bad and cultivate happiness. Stop waiting for the right person, the right circumstances. Don’t wait for happiness to find you. Be happy right now. In this moment. And use gratitude to help you get there. 
Adversity - Staying Positive When Life Falls Apart

We take a lot of good things for granted in our everyday life. A roof over our heads, a steady paycheck, a loving partner, the ability to go out for a run on the weekends. The specifics vary, but one of the big advantages of modern lives is the many awesome things we can count on. We’re not used to falling short, so when something happens and our life starts to fall apart, it’s easy to fall into thinking patterns that focus on lack and despair. 

Sometimes the bad things are a result of choices we made. Sometimes they are outside of our control. In either case, it is up to us to decide how we react to each crisis. One piece of advice that is important to remember no matter what adversity you face is to make sure you don’t forget about how blessed you really are. Gratitude can turn what we have into enough. 

There’s a quote I love and would like to share with you by Melody Beattie. Here it is: 

“Gratitude turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos into order, confusion into clarity...it makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow." 

Think about how you can start to do this in your everyday life. A good place to start is to simply take a deep breath and pause for a moment when things go wrong and everything is starting to feel overwhelming. Then come up with one little thing you are grateful for during this time. It can be something as simple as being able to breathe fresh, clean air, or living to fight another day. 

Find that something and start to build on it. What else are you grateful for? Keep making that mental list until the desperation starts to lift and you can start to think clearly. When you do, you can start to find your way out, no matter how bad things seem at first. And remember, you never know what good might come from the struggle you are facing right now. 

When life gets crazy don’t forget to count your blessings and use gratitude to turn what you have into enough. Our ancestors were great at this. It’s time we picked that habit back up. 

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How To Set Intentions That Energize You

9/7/2021

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We’ve all heard how crucial it is to set intentions, goals and targets. Powerful goals electrify us. Clear intentions energize and pull us forward. Without a clear cut intention, we’re reactive and don’t get around to doing the important things when we want them done. Instead, we spend our time fighting random fires.

Without clear intentions, anything might happen. And usually does.

Literally, intentions are like the steering wheel on your car. Their whole purpose is to give you control over where you’re going. But when setting intentions or goals, keep in mind that if you can’t measure it, you can’t manage it. Now, it’s good to have intentions at more than one level. When we get up into the more conceptual intentions, such as “I will contribute to the wellbeing of those around me,” these become like a mission statement.

But then, be sure you move on to decide specifically how you will go about implementing your mission in your daily life. Specifics are essential. How — specifically — will you put your mission into action today? What will you actually DO about your highest intentions?

It’s important to set intentions for yourself because this is where the rubber meets the road. Just say “I’m going to do this and this.” It should be nothing big and overpowering. Just some stuff you’re meaning to do or achieve short-term. Be sure to write them down on paper. When you list them out, you can clearly look over your results afterward and check yourself.

At the end of today or this time next week, did you do what you said you’d do? Expressed like that, it’s clear that we’re building a kind of internal integrity check within ourselves.

When you’re first starting to build this new intention-setting skill (habit), it’s important not to pile on too much. Sure, it’s easy to get all excited about turning over a new leaf, but it’s essential that you start where you are NOW, not where you think you SHOULD be.

There are things that, from experience, you already know you can do. Set your intentions to do those things (plus perhaps a little bit more) and achieve them. Then, when you’re comfortable doing what you say you’ll do, then you can begin to stretch your intention muscles a little more.

But as in any new regimen, begin easy. Begin with what you can actually do. And only after you get comfortable with the intention-setting process should you start going for real growth. Patience – taking small, measured steps – is more than a virtue here. It’s the key to keeping yourself moving forward. (Notice I said patience, not procrastination.)

Attempt too much too soon, and the end result will be another round of demotivation and discouragement.

Instead, go about this logically and gradually: keep your eye on the level you want to reach next year, and let today’s effort take you 1/365th of the way there. Do this, and you’ll see real, measurable progress as well as achievements you’ll truly be proud of.

It’s all pretty simple stuff, really. Just training yourself to keep your word to yourself.

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Happiness - A CONSCIOUS FOCUS

9/1/2021

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Happiness - A Conscious Focus. 

I’m going to let you in on a little secret I learned years ago that has served me well. What you focus on comes to pass. When you practice gratitude you are training your mind to be more positive and this has some interesting physical implications. Practicing gratitude and positive thinking directly affects your brain chemistry. That’s right, by focusing on gratitude and happiness; you control the release of certain chemicals and neurotransmitters that influence how you feel both physically and mentally. Let’s take a look at how that works. 

More Feel Good Hormones 

Focusing on happiness and gratitude leads to the release of two “feel good” hormones - dopamine and serotonin. These two neurotransmitters are responsible for those fuzzy warm feelings. Yes, there are other ways to get them like exercise and chocolate for example. But who wouldn’t want to increase these powerful antidepressants with something as simple as giving and receiving gratitude for example. This stresses the point that you are able to make your own happiness. And it’s not just a mental exercise. Focusing on positivity, making a conscious effort to be more grateful and happier changes the balances of hormones and neurotransmitters in your body and your brain. 

In short, practicing gratitude and the resulting feeling of happiness are a powerful strategy to beat depression and anxiety, often working better than prescription drugs - and without the nasty side effects. 

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Setting Intentions

9/1/2021

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Setting Intentions
An intention is a guiding principle for how you want to be, live, and show up in the world — whether at work, in relationships, during your meditation, or in any area of your life. Ask yourself, what matters most to you? Your answer could form a powerful intention, for which you can align your thoughts and attitude for the day ahead. Having a clear intention with you at your fingertips can help  guide your actions as you move through the day.

But an intention shouldn’t be confused with a goal — it’s not something you attach an expectation or evaluation to. It is something you want to align with in your life. It’s an aim, a purpose, or attitude you’d be proud to commit to.

Intentions must come from your heart; they are not the tangible “boost sales by 25%” or “get a promotion” kind of smart goals that you set at work. They are heart-driven and evoke feelings and purpose, like “practice being non-judgmental of myself and of others,” “send compassion out to the world,” “open my heart,” and “let go of fear…” Setting an intention is a way to bring your heart and mind into alignment.

Why Set Intentions?
Setting an intention at the start of a new year, on your birthday, when a new month begins, or at the beginning of your day or week can be a powerful practice because it’s the first step to embodying that which you want. Wayne Dyer said, “Our intention creates our reality.” And how many times have you heard “What you think, you become,” or “Thoughts become things”?

If you’re focusing your mind on a specific intention during a meditation, you are bringing it to your focused mind, your thoughts, your heart … and in turn helping to bring it into your reality.

How to Set an Intention
Your intention should be closely tied to your personal thoughts, values, and perspective on life. Intentions can be a clear and specific wish, or as simple as a word or phrase you’d like to align yourself with, like “open your mind and heart,” “love,” “vulnerability,” “strength,” “kindness for myself and others,” “peace,” or “freedom.” Try to keep the intention positive, so instead of saying “stop being a coward,” or “spend less time alone,” choose the intentions, “be courageous” or simply, “community”.

Here are some thought-starters to help you get started in forming an intention:

  • What matters most to you?
  • What would you like to build, create, or nurture in your life?
  • What would you like to let go of?
  • Who would you like to forgive in your life?
  • How do you feel when you are your happiest self?
  • What makes you proud?
  • What word(s) would you like to align yourself with?
  • What fears would you like to release?
  • What are you grateful for?
  • What are your wildest dreams?

10 Intentions You Can Borrow
  1. Find balance
  2. Open your mind and heart
  3. Peace
  4. Stay steady, calm and focused
  5. Act with courage
  6. Embrace change
  7. Give and receive love
  8. Allow yourself to be vulnerable
  9. Connect with others
  10. Acceptance

You can borrow one of these if it resonates with you, but try to create something personal for yourself.

Intentions Put to Practice
Silently stating your intention at the beginning of your day, week, or meditation won’t be enough. You must revisit it often and when needed. Call it to the center of your mind when you feel off center and need to reset. Intentions are a wonderful way to help you stay grounded and reconnect with what matters most. We are going to use the phases of the Moon to remind us when to set our intentions for the month (New Moon) and when to reflect on them and see which ones we've accomplished and which ones need more work (Full Moon). The New Moon for September is the 7th. The Full Moon is the 20th.

“Intentions compressed into words enfold magical power.”
~Deepak Chopra

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